Encourgement is the Key!

Picture a young child struggling to build a tower of blocks. Every time they stack them higher, the structure wobbles and collapses. Frustration wells up in their tiny hands, ready to give up. But then, a voice says, "You’re getting better! Try again!" With renewed determination, they stack the blocks once more. This voice, full of belief and encouragement, is the invisible force shaping their future.

Parents often worry about providing the best - the best clothes, the best gadgets etc. While these are useful, none compare to the immeasurable value of encouragement. A child with encouragement grows up believing they are capable, resilient, and worthy. Love gives them warmth, but encouragement gives them wings. Encouragement isn’t just about offering praise—it’s about guiding a child to see their potential and stretch beyond their comfort zone. It’s about saying, "I know you can do this," even when they doubt themselves. It’s about reminding them that failure isn’t the end, but a stepping stone to growth.

Encouragement does not mean ignoring weaknesses. Shielding children from their flaws does not make them stronger—it makes them fragile. If a child is careless with their work, a parent’s role isn’t to say, "It’s fine, you’re amazing!" but rather, "You have a great start! Let’s refine it together." Encouragement is truth wrapped in kindness. Children who receive encouragement in the right way develop a strong inner voice. They learn to say to themselves, "I can improve," rather than "I’m not good enough." This self-belief will carry them through school, friendships, careers, and life’s unexpected challenges.

How to Offer Encouragement That Lasts?

# I love how much time you spent on this project! instead of You’re so smart.

# You’re improving every time you try! rather than You have to be the best.

# This is great! Let’s see how we can make it even better.

# Show them how to encourage others by being their example.

A child raised with encouragement becomes an adult who faces life with courage and optimism. They become the person who lifts others up, who isn’t afraid to take risks, who doesn’t crumble under setbacks. This is the kind of gift that lasts a lifetime, shaping not only one individual but generations to come.

So it is always a good idea to ask yourself every other day - Have I given my child the gift of encouragement today?

The right words, spoken by the parents or teachers with belief and love, can be the foundation upon which they build their future, don't you think so? 

Panchavti Panchamukha Anjaneyar Kshetram

As the new year begins, I find myself drawn to an idea that has lingered in my mind for years—to blog regularly about the temples and heritage monuments in Pondicherry. What better place to start this journey than with Panchavati? Introduced to me by my best friend Sujata, Panchavati quickly became a cherished destination for our shared spiritual explorations.

Nestled in the tranquil outskirts of Pondicherry, Panchavati isn’t merely a temple; it’s a profound experience. My first visit left an indelible mark on me, and each subsequent trip feels like returning to a haven of peace and devotion. The Panchavati Panchamukha Anjaneya Temple, located just 12 kilometers from Pondicherry, is home to the world’s second-largest Anjaneya idol—a breathtaking sight that draws devotees and curious travelers alike.

As you approach the temple, there’s a palpable shift in the air. The modest yet enchanting architecture exudes timelessness. Stone pathways adorned with intricate kolams (traditional South Indian rangoli designs) invite you toward the sanctum, heightening the sense of anticipation.

The main deity, Lord Hanuman, rises majestically at 36 feet, the tallest Hanuman statue in India. This extraordinary idol, adorned with the faces of Garuda, Narasimha, Varaha, and Hayagriva, frames the central visage of Lord Hanuman, symbolizing his multifaceted divinity. Flickering oil lamps illuminate the deity, casting a golden glow that enhances the sanctity and awe of the space.

One of the most heartwarming aspects of visiting Panchavati is the prasadam. Whether it’s the sweet pongal infused with jaggery and ghee or the humble curd rice garnished with fresh curry leaves, every offering seems to carry an essence of love and devotion. Each bite transcends the mere act of eating, becoming a sacred connection to the divine.

The two gentle ladies who serve the prasadam are integral to this experience. Their warm smiles and maternal kindness elevate a simple ritual into a deeply personal exchange. Every time I visit, they inquire about my well-being with genuine concern, turning the act of receiving prasadam into a moment of heartfelt connection.

During one of my visits, I learned a fascinating story about the presence of Perumal (Lord Vishnu) at the temple. According to the priest, Perumal was returning from a wedding when he decided to rest at Panchavati. Enchanted by the place, he chose to remain there. The priest’s narration, filled with charm and reverence, brought this tale to life, adding a touch of historical and mythical wonder to my experience. Stories like these, passed down through generations, are treasures that deepen the allure of places like Panchavati.

The temple’s history further enriches its charm. Established decades ago by a group of devoted individuals, Panchavati was envisioned as a sanctuary for spiritual solace. Over the years, it has become a vibrant hub for community gatherings, festivals, and cultural celebrations. Despite its growing popularity, the temple has retained its intimate and tranquil essence.

To me, Panchavati is much more than a place of worship; it is a sanctuary for the soul. It is where I have found moments of introspection, joy, and a sense of community. Each visit serves as a poignant reminder of life’s simplest yet most profound joys—a warm smile, a heartfelt inquiry, the taste of prasadam, and the enduring strength of faith.

If you ever find yourself in Pondicherry, I urge you not to miss Panchavati. It is a place where divinity and humanity intertwine beautifully, leaving you with cherished memories and a heart brimming with gratitude.