Panchavti Panchamukha Anjaneyar Kshetram

As the new year begins, I find myself drawn to an idea that has lingered in my mind for years—to blog regularly about the temples and heritage monuments in Pondicherry. What better place to start this journey than with Panchavati? Introduced to me by my best friend Sujata, Panchavati quickly became a cherished destination for our shared spiritual explorations.

Nestled in the tranquil outskirts of Pondicherry, Panchavati isn’t merely a temple; it’s a profound experience. My first visit left an indelible mark on me, and each subsequent trip feels like returning to a haven of peace and devotion. The Panchavati Panchamukha Anjaneya Temple, located just 12 kilometers from Pondicherry, is home to the world’s second-largest Anjaneya idol—a breathtaking sight that draws devotees and curious travelers alike.

As you approach the temple, there’s a palpable shift in the air. The modest yet enchanting architecture exudes timelessness. Stone pathways adorned with intricate kolams (traditional South Indian rangoli designs) invite you toward the sanctum, heightening the sense of anticipation.

The main deity, Lord Hanuman, rises majestically at 36 feet, the tallest Hanuman statue in India. This extraordinary idol, adorned with the faces of Garuda, Narasimha, Varaha, and Hayagriva, frames the central visage of Lord Hanuman, symbolizing his multifaceted divinity. Flickering oil lamps illuminate the deity, casting a golden glow that enhances the sanctity and awe of the space.

One of the most heartwarming aspects of visiting Panchavati is the prasadam. Whether it’s the sweet pongal infused with jaggery and ghee or the humble curd rice garnished with fresh curry leaves, every offering seems to carry an essence of love and devotion. Each bite transcends the mere act of eating, becoming a sacred connection to the divine.

The two gentle ladies who serve the prasadam are integral to this experience. Their warm smiles and maternal kindness elevate a simple ritual into a deeply personal exchange. Every time I visit, they inquire about my well-being with genuine concern, turning the act of receiving prasadam into a moment of heartfelt connection.

During one of my visits, I learned a fascinating story about the presence of Perumal (Lord Vishnu) at the temple. According to the priest, Perumal was returning from a wedding when he decided to rest at Panchavati. Enchanted by the place, he chose to remain there. The priest’s narration, filled with charm and reverence, brought this tale to life, adding a touch of historical and mythical wonder to my experience. Stories like these, passed down through generations, are treasures that deepen the allure of places like Panchavati.

The temple’s history further enriches its charm. Established decades ago by a group of devoted individuals, Panchavati was envisioned as a sanctuary for spiritual solace. Over the years, it has become a vibrant hub for community gatherings, festivals, and cultural celebrations. Despite its growing popularity, the temple has retained its intimate and tranquil essence.

To me, Panchavati is much more than a place of worship; it is a sanctuary for the soul. It is where I have found moments of introspection, joy, and a sense of community. Each visit serves as a poignant reminder of life’s simplest yet most profound joys—a warm smile, a heartfelt inquiry, the taste of prasadam, and the enduring strength of faith.

If you ever find yourself in Pondicherry, I urge you not to miss Panchavati. It is a place where divinity and humanity intertwine beautifully, leaving you with cherished memories and a heart brimming with gratitude.

December in Pondicherry

December casts a spell over Pondicherry, turning this coastal gem into an enchanting haven where time feels like it’s dancing to a slower, more joyful rhythm. The town is a hive of activity as visitors from all corners flock to bask in its unique blend of colonial charm and seaside allure.

Taking a stroll through the French Quarter is like stepping into a page torn straight out of a storybook. The pastel-hued colonial facades, vine-draped balconies, and cobblestone streets are a feast for the eyes. Quaint cafes and street vendors beckon like sirens, drawing you in with their cozy charm. Every nook and cranny seems to whisper secrets of yesteryears, making it impossible not to get lost in the magic of the moment.

In December, Pondicherry wears its festive spirit on its sleeve. The streets come alive, twinkling like a star-studded sky, while the air is thick with the aroma of freshly baked treats and spices that tickle your senses. Whether you’re savoring mouthwatering local delicacies, soaking in art that stirs the soul, or simply kicking back by the beach with the waves as your soundtrack, there’s something for every heart to treasure.

As the year winds down, Pondicherry serves as the perfect balm for the soul—a place where the hustle and bustle melt away like morning dew. Here, you can truly live in the moment, letting the town’s vibrant spirit fill your sails for the journey ahead. December in Pondicherry isn’t just a trip; it’s a chapter of joy, etched forever in the book of memories. A big high five to all the those souls in Pondy now, soaking in the magic and gearing up to ring in the New Year with boundless energy and joy!

I guess I was dancing around the point—what I truly wanted to say is this: I’m in love with Pondicherry, no matter the season, December or otherwise!

Love Vs Pampering

As parents or mentors, we often grapple with a challenging question: should we prioritize making our children feel good in the moment, or should we invest in their long-term growth? The distinction between pampering and loving becomes crucial here.

Pampering is the easier path. It means shielding children from discomfort, saying “yes” to everything they want, and avoiding any situation that might upset them. It feels good to see them smile, to avoid their tears, and to be the source of their happiness. But is that happiness truly helping them? “A smooth sea never made a skilled sailor,” as the saying goes. Shielding children from life’s challenges may leave them unprepared for the storms ahead.

True love for a child goes beyond pampering. It is a commitment to their growth and well-being, even if it sometimes means saying “no” or allowing them to face challenges. Pampering might mean letting a child skip their chores because they’re tired. Love means teaching them the value of responsibility, even when it’s inconvenient. Pampering avoids confrontation, while love takes the risk of upsetting them if it means guiding them in the right direction. After all, “a stitch in time saves nine”—the small discomfort of discipline today prevents larger issues tomorrow.

Children need boundaries, structure, and feedback. Love acts like a mirror, reflecting both their strengths and areas they can improve. Pampering, on the other hand, glosses over imperfections, leaving children without the tools they need to navigate life’s challenges. “You reap what you sow”—and sowing love, even when it’s tough, yields a harvest of resilience and character.

Imagine pampering as handing your child a sugary treat—instant joy, but no nourishment. Love, however, is like offering them a balanced meal. It may not always be what they crave, but it’s what they need to grow strong and healthy. As the proverb goes, “What is right is not always popular, and what is popular is not always right.”

Love involves patience, consistency, and sometimes tough decisions. It means encouraging a child to try again after failure, teaching them the value of honesty even when it’s difficult, and helping them see their own potential, even when they doubt it. Pampering indulges; love builds. “Give a man a fish, and you feed him for a day; teach a man to fish, and you feed him for a lifetime.” In the same way, love equips children with the skills they need for a lifetime.

As parents and caregivers, our ultimate goal is to prepare children for life. Pampering may bring fleeting smiles, but it’s love that will equip them with resilience, empathy, and the ability to face the world with confidence. So, love your children enough to challenge them, guide them, and let them grow—not just to keep them comfortable. “The greatest gift you can give your child is roots to grow and wings to fly.” By doing so, you empower them with the strength to create their own happiness.

The Choice is Ours!

In a world brimming with gadgets and screens, it’s crucial to find fun activities that reconnect us with nature! One of the best ways to do this is through gardening. Let’s explore how getting our hands dirty can foster growth and learning in our children!

Have you ever witnessed the magical transformation of a seed into a plant? It requires time, care, and patience! Gardening teaches kids that good things come to those who wait. As they water the plants and watch them flourish, they learn to be responsible and patient—just like superheroes tending to their secret gardens! The hope and imagination that blossom around these plants can spark their curiosity.

Dirty hands bring rich experiences and lasting memories. While gardening, children use their hands to plant seeds, dig into the soil, and pick ripe fruits. These hands-on activities help them develop fine motor skills and coordination—it’s like a fun workout for their little hands! Every time they push a shovel into the earth, they’re growing stronger and more skilled.

Gardening offers a perfect escape from screens, inviting children to relish the great outdoors. Outside, they can hear the birds sing and feel the warm sunshine on their faces—experiences that are rare in our gadget-filled lives. This connection to nature helps them focus better, like a cozy blanket that envelops them in comfort. Getting lost in the beauty of the outdoors is a delightful way to spend their time!

Just as in life, plants face challenges, whether it’s pesky pests or not enough sunlight. When children garden, they become little detectives! They learn to observe, think critically, and devise solutions—much like piecing together a puzzle, which strengthens their problem-solving skills.

Through gardening, kids discover the incredible world of plants and animals. Watching a flower bloom or a butterfly dance by helps them forge a connection with nature. It’s like forming a friendship with the earth! This bond nurtures their appreciation for our planet and instills the importance of protecting it.

Gardening is also a canvas for creativity! Children can choose vibrant flowers, arrange them into stunning patterns, and decorate pots with their unique designs. Each garden is a masterpiece, just like each individual! This freedom to create allows their imagination to soar, enabling them to express themselves in magical ways.

In conclusion, gardening is more than just planting seeds; it’s a journey of growth and discovery. As children dig in the dirt and watch their plants thrive, they learn invaluable lessons about patience, responsibility, and the wonders of nature. So, let’s encourage our kiddos to grab their gloves and embark on a gardening adventure—because every seed we plant is a step toward nurturing our best selves!

Let’s raise children who can identify plants and animals, not just celebrities and brands. While recognizing celebrities and brands isn’t inherently negative, nurturing a love for nature can help them grow into compassionate individuals who cherish life beyond the hypnotic glow of screens!

Be the Nice Kid, But Stay Strong and True to Yourself

Being with the youngest generation is always a rewarding experience, but it comes with its own set of challenges. The rise of COVID-19 has only deepened these complexities, as gadgets have become almost like an extra limb for many kids. This increasing dependence on screens is causing disruptions at home, often leading to misbehavior and difficult attitudes. It is an ongoing challenge for the parents and teachers. Though I hadn’t blogged in a while, I felt compelled to return to the page to express my thoughts. I want to share some genuine reflections, hoping they resonate with the young minds navigating this digital age.

In school and in life, you’re going to meet all kinds of people. Some kids will be smarter than you in certain subjects, some will have the latest accessories or gadgets, and others will be stars on the sports field. But you know what? That’s perfectly fine! The world is filled with different kinds of talents, and each of us has our own unique abilities. You don’t have to be the best at everything, and you don’t need the coolest stuff to stand out.

What truly matters is who you are. Everyone has their "thing"—that special trait or talent that makes them shine. But beyond that, you have the power to choose how you treat others, and that’s where you can truly make a difference. Being the kid who’s friendly, kind, and generous, who’s always there for others, is something far more valuable than any accessory or achievement.

Be the kid who can get along with everyone, the one who is happy when others succeed. It’s easy to get caught up in jealousy or competition, but true strength lies in being supportive and celebrating the wins of others. When you lift others up, you lift yourself up too.

But there’s another side to being the “nice kid”—you also have to stay strong. While it’s important to be kind and compassionate, it’s equally important not to let others take advantage of your kindness. Being generous doesn’t mean allowing people to walk all over you. Be the kid who knows their boundaries, who can say "no" when needed, and who stands up for themselves with quiet confidence.

Remember, kindness is a choice, but so is self-respect. Be the person who does the right thing, who makes others feel valued, and who leads with empathy. But never lose sight of your own worth. You can be both kind and strong.

So, don’t worry about being the smartest, the fastest, or the coolest. Focus on being the kid who does what’s right, who treats others with respect, and who never forgets to respect themselves, too. That’s how you truly become the best version of yourself! We must help our kids comprehend this point that will prove to be a great lesson for life ahead! 

Can we take a U-turn?

It is that time of the year when we hold events that bring in vibrancy to the campus.

Taking a walk around the campus today made me realize how much we miss the loud, noisy classrooms! The once-upon-a-time noisy classrooms have become synonymous with silence. How sad!

When will this glum look vanish?

The corridors and the assembly area put on such a gloomy look. It was just suffocating to step into the library. The books that always journeyed from one hand to another, almost shed tears. They must be feeling they are ignored. The digi-boards seem to be craving for a touch! The most happening place in the campus– the playground – looks lush green, yet it seemed to tell me the painful stories of solitude. The kids’ park which echoed cheers and shouts doesn’t even seem to recognize any sound now! The deserted look of the lunch hall reminded me of the good old days there. The staff rooms which were colorful with the presence of the pretty ladies are definitely going through some serious depression. The Wisdom Tree and Gulmohur which usually smile with their yellow and red blooms don’t even bother to sway in the wind!

With an invisible virus and its attack, we took shelter in the Zoom Rooms, moving away from the classrooms! We did think it was an ESCAPE, but was it actually an escape?

When will we get back to campus with the loud cheers and gleeful faces of the Rosebuddies? When will the carnivals and exhibitions bring fun and frolic to the campus? When will we have a little chit chat while sipping the tea, before the bell rings for the next period?

Dear Corona, please go away at the earliest! We have had enough and more than enough of you! 

Please be ABSENT! 

When teachers call out your name, let us shout in chorus - 

Corona is absent, miss! 

Missing the good, old campus! Seriously!

A 'walk' that we did not know, we walked!

Conversations are beautiful, especially with the ones who run on the same wavelength! 

Mostly, it satiates the girl/woman in me!

In one such conversation today, just came across the word ‘age’ and that completely took me off!

Isn’t age just a number? Did we ever notice we were ageing? 

We did age, but did we know is the question!

As I always say, I always feel I am just out of my college! The years that rolled by, the birthday candles that I have blown out, the birthdays that were meant to remind that I have added one more candle to the cake did not really strike me I guess. Maybe, being with the fresh generation has helped a bit, in this regard! And, maybe liking the person I am, might have helped a BUNCH too! 💃💃

From that 10 year old girl🙅 who cried for silver (all time fav) anklets, to the 15 year old who was adamant about studying 7 years only in UC, to the 20 year old who wanted to keep her parents happy, to the 25 year old who developed that much needed 'don't care' attitude, to the 30 year old who took to being a mom, to the 35 year old who had a passion to break the rules, to the 40 year old who wished to do what she wanted, to the 45 year old who says 'damn it' and has her own ways – it was a long walk! From Black to some gorgeous Silver here and there, that I may love not to hide, and the wrinkles that come up showing are JUST the physical changes - it has absolutely nothing to do with the soul! 

Isn't it all feeling like a cakewalk? 

I think I would prefer a catwalk ahead, if time permits!