The real question is - Why should girls have all the FUN (in the kitchen)?
From times immemorial, women were supposed to do all the kitchen/household work. Rather, the women were made to do it. This practice had almost continued till the late 20th century when the fresh generation brought in some revolutionary changes in the system. Here and there, there popped up a few sweetheart hubbies, who really could make out the difficulties their better halves were going through. And, when we stand in the 21st century- things have changed for good, though the previous generation cannot accept most of it.
Though I am not a full-time feminist, I have traces of feminism in me, which come out while reacting to situations.
The OldGen moms never allowed their sons to try their hands at household chores. This could have probably made them feel they have something ‘extra’ in them which might have contributed to the male ego! There is no denying the fact that, to a great extent, their moms are responsible for this! They did not know much in their boyhood. But, why did they not change when they grew up?
The answer is quite simple - that had already become a way of life!
In most Indian homes, we see the women in the house tiring themselves out with the household stuff while men lace around watching TV and order ‘n’ number of cups of coffee/tea now and then! This happens even today!
Do we need our NexGen be like this?
Is it not good for the boys to know how to cook and clean?
Is it not a skill for life?
Will it not make them self-dependent, rather than becoming parasitic?
Will it not help them multitask?
There are ‘n’ number of things that you learn by managing a kitchen effectively. An added advantage is that - the skills acquired here can be useful in other spheres of life. After all, it doesn’t cost an arm and a leg.
If you have a son/ sons, why don’t you make them chop the vegetables, make you some coffee and teach them to cook? Will it not make them understand the difficulty you go through? Will it not help create a warmer bonding with them? Will it not give them a clear cut message on how gender discrimination can be wiped out by starting it from home?
Would you not really love it when your son makes you some good coffee or some juice? Would you not adore him for the love he mixes in it? Would you not feel contented that he understands you are tired working all day?
Why should girls have all the fun in the kitchen?
Why can’t the boys too have a bit of that FUN, wherein they acquire some good skills for life!
NewGen Moms, help out your sons to ‘grow up’ in the real sense of the phrase. Help them get transformed into men who understand their women well enough!
Such a beautiful warm content... I agree with each and every word written. This is not only important to build a future of equality but also with consideration for the women in your life. Thank You for sharing ths ๐
ReplyDeleteYou are right ma'am, These thing has to be changed. We the mom of this era train our kids without any gender bias. Let the boys learn the households which will change the scenario of future. Nice thought!!!!
ReplyDeleteYes mam you are right and not just this. I would like to share my most hated sentence which people use a lot ๐๐. Shall I ? Hope you will accept it๐๐.I hate one sentence which people use to say often to the boys who cry " Hey, you are a boy. Don't cry like a girl" Even boys too have feelings and they too have tears. Why do people belive that crying is only meant to girls and not for boys. This should also be changed. ๐ค๐ค
ReplyDeleteCompletely agree!
ReplyDeleteI will put down my thoughts. Just my thoughts. Most of the boys are taught not to express their feelings, specially the kind of feelings that will project them to be weak. They were never exposed to the fact that expressing themselves will give them better options in life, and will help gain good mental status than by containing everything in their minds.
Why can’t a boy cry? It is absolutely fine for a boy to cry! Unfortunately, many boys/men tend to project themselves to be very strong by not showing their honest emotions. This is something that they do for the people around them, not for themselves. Most of the time, I have felt, the society wants us to be artificial beings, where the real selves are kept hidden. And, if someone projects himself/herself as they are, there is a big hue and cry!
Btw, who is this unknown?
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DeleteGreat. Nice to see you on my bloggie!
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DeleteSuni, thaan ithra bhayankara ezhuthukariyayathu njan arinjilla. Kollam. You have a regular reader from now on.
ReplyDeleteYeah! Man with a pan always looks handsome!
ReplyDeleteAgreed Suni dear. i am growing up my son like that.Being nine years old He makes dosas for all of us at night. He helps me with small things in the kitchen. When somebody asks me why, I tell them I am preparing him for the future to support and respect his better half. Mothers must make the change. Rightly said
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